Taste Is a Leash
Aesthetics, control, and the slow disappearance of the self
Everyone agrees that taste is good. And this is the first suspicious thing about it.
Concepts that carry unfeigned complexity, that actually do the philosophical work they claim, tend to generate argument, résistance, the occasional scandal. Taste generates admiration, and consensus, and the low-grade social terror of being caught without it. That unanimity should make us uneasy.
Bourdieu saw through this decades ago, with a ruthlessness that French academia has spent forty years politely minimising. “Distinction” is not a book about aesthetics but one about power wearing the clothes of sensibility. Taste, he argued, is not the flowering of a free consciousness encountering beauty and recognising it. It is the most elegant mechanism of class reproduction available to a society that has decided it no longer believes in hierarchy while practising it in every room it enters.
The scandal is not that taste is elitist. The scandal is that it insists, with exquisite conviction, that it is not.
And yet what Bourdieu’s formidable apparatus does not quite reach is the question of the body, specifically whose body is expected not solely to exercise taste but to be its object. Because once you start looking at that, the category of the tasteful reveals its other function: it is not only about class. It is about containment, the management of appetite, and of evidence, and of whatever in a person refuses to be made legible for someone else’s comfort.
Think about what gets called tasteless. A room painted the wrong shade of red. Music that fills the space and insists on itself. Food that makes too much of its own flavour. Laughter that is too unguarded, in the wrong register, at the wrong volume for the ceiling height. The erotic, when it is present rather than simply implied, when it refuses to be subdued into suggestion, becomes a breach of taste. And the corrective is always the same: be smaller! Be quieter! Be prettier! yes, but in a way that costs nothing visible, that shows no seam of effort or need, that produces no evidence of wanting.
I once read an interiors magazine in which a stylist described a perfectly appointed bedroom as conveying an absence of need. I have thought about that phrase… “an absence of need”. As aesthetic ideal? As design philosophy? As, underneath the linen and the considered lamplight, a moral instruction about what a self ought to look like when it performs correctly?
Design is where the bad faith becomes almost comic in its thoroughness. There is a strain of contemporary design culture, you know the one, all warm neutrals and negative space and “letting the material speak”, that presents itself as the opposite of control. As breath, as simplicity, as the rejection of maximalist clutter. And yet this aesthetic, which now retails at a significant premium in every aspirational western city, is about as accidental as a Bergman film. The warm neutral is not neutral. The curated emptiness is very full. What it is full of is the values of a specific class, a specific geography, a specific register of self-presentation, one that has decided noise is low, colour is suspect, and that the pinnacle of civilised living is a room that shows no evidence of anyone having lived in it with any urgency.
African textiles get called “bold”, which is the aesthetic world’s way of saying interesting but not quite serious.
South Asian embroidery gets called “maximalist”, as if intricacy were excess rather than a tradition of immense technical and symbolic sophistication.
Persian carpets, for centuries among the most complex objects human hands have produced, were retrofitted into western interiors as accent pieces, decorative punctuation in someone else’s sentence.
Andean weaving, Congolese woodcarving, Ottoman tilework, all of it processed through the same mechanism, the metropolitan taste filter that extracts the visual pleasure while discreetly evacuating the meaning.
Eastern European peasant ceramics, before they were excavated by Scandi-inflected nostalgia and repriced for Brooklyn boutiques, were simply garish.
Mexican Talavera, with its saturated blues and that extraordinary confidence of surface, was folkloric, which in taste-world functions as a compliment designed to keep you at a careful distance.
Japanese aesthetics received the most instructive treatment of all: wabi-sabi was lifted from its Buddhist philosophical context, stripped of its relationship to impermanence and suffering, and repackaged as a Kinfolk-approved justification for owning an asymmetric bowl.
The taste hierarchy is, at every point, also a geography, and that geography has a power structure. What gets neutralised by the label “tasteful” is not only excess but origin, insistence, the sheer categorical refusal of certain cultures to be minimised into someone else’s accent wall.
Then there is how people dress, which has become its own exhausting semaphore. The wide-leg trouser in a shade that is not quite grey and not quite green and has no business existing, paired with an oversized shirt in washed silk or heavy linen that has been carefully designed to look as though it was found, not bought.
There is an entire contemporary fashion aesthetic built on this proposition, that the most sophisticated thing money can do is disappear into the garment entirely, leaving behind only a quality of fabric and a cut so restrained it communicates, to those fluent in the language, a cultural position and an income bracket with the efficiency of a business card. Austerity at the price of a small car. Sensuality offered but only barely, a cashmere that suggests the body without committing to it, desire edited down to a texture, the erotic reduced to a drape. The Scandinavian promise made wearable: clean, considered, achingly inoffensive, the sartorial equivalent of a room where nothing is allowed to want anything.
The leather loafer, unbranded, because branding is for people who have not yet understood that the truly tasteful thing is to make others work to recognise your references. The single piece of jewellery that is statement only in the sense that it makes a very discreet statement about having been to the right market in the right city at the right moment: a chunky silver ring from a ceramicist in Lisbon, or a hand-hammered cuff from a collective in Oaxaca whose Instagram has fewer than four thousand followers, which is itself the point. The overall effect is of someone who has spent considerable time and money assembling the appearance of someone who spends no time or money thinking about appearance. The contradiction is not accidental. It is the whole project.
The interior follows the same grammar. The marble dining table, white Carrara or honed Calacatta, that costs as much as a semester of university tuition and around which people sit discussing, with some frequency, the importance of not being materialistic. The Scandinavian (yeah, again!) minimalist interior that has spread across the aspirational western world with the mute totalitarianism of a state religion: the pale wood, the single ceramic object on the windowsill, the complete absence of anything that might suggest that the people living there have ever been confused, or excessive, or in love in a way that left visible marks. It is a beautiful, bloodless aesthetic, and it has been sold to an entire generation as the visual language of a considered life, when what it actually communicates, if you look at it without the lifestyle supplement framing it, is a life from which all evidence of living has been carefully, expensively removed.
Class, of course, has never absented itself from any of this. The British aristocracy, that venerable institution of spectacular and prolonged self-implosion, developed an aesthetic in which money was never supposed to show. Faded curtains. Ancient plate. The studied scruffiness of certain schools, where the uniform was worn with a specific learned dishevelment that no amount of money could purchase in a single generation.
The entire performance was designed to distinguish old wealth from new by the degree to which it had learned to hide itself, which is only possible if you have so much of it that concealment becomes an option rather than a necessity.
In that system, taste was literally the capacity to afford not to look like you were trying.
This structure has not changed. It has simply migrated into different surfaces: the unbranded tote, the undyed merino, the coffee-table book left open at a specific page when visitors arrive, as if you had simply paused mid-thought and the thought happened to be Sebald. The anxiety underneath remains identical.
What I find really strange, not strange as in incomprehensible but strange as in this deserves more examination than it receives, is how thoroughly the language of taste has been absorbed into the discourse of self-expression. There is now an entire aesthetic register called, variously, “quiet luxury” or “old money style” or “understated elegance”, and it is being sold as…. liberation. As if the most subversive act available were to refine one’s own visibility down to a tasteful murmur.
The cultural magazines have switched, with admirable market agility, from selling one kind of performance to selling another, and the instruction underneath is structurally identical: perform your selfhood in a key that is legible, that makes no one uncomfortable, that has pre-empted its own criticism by being so thoroughly inoffensive that disagreement becomes socially awkward. Taste, in this configuration, is not freedom. It is a more sophisticated compliance.
Censorship works by the same logic, which should not surprise us given that taste and censorship are, structurally, in the same business, the management of what can be shown, said, felt without social consequence.
The erotic has been the primary target of moral censorship for most of western cultural history, but it is worth noticing how rarely the tools need to be legal.
You do not need to ban an image if you can instead produce a culture in which that image is described as lacking in taste. You do not need a law against loudness if loudness has been successfully coded as vulgarity.
The effect is identical. The mechanism is more elegant. More deniable. And, crucially, self-administering… the most efficient stage of any disciplinary project is always when the surveilled begin to surveil themselves, when the corrective voice is no longer external but has taken up comfortable residence in the interior.
I am teaching myself to unlearn this. Slowly, with the particular awkwardness of someone dismantling a system they inhabited so long they stopped seeing its walls. What I mean, specifically, I am teaching myself to recognise that what was presented to me as tasteful was not the expression of anyone’s authentic interior, but a set of inherited instructions about how to be publicly acceptable, how to exist in a way that generates approval rather than friction.
The person who has neutralised their space into perfect composition is not necessarily more formed than the person whose shelves are chaotic, whose references are unfashionable, who has a carpet they love for no defensible reason.
I find myself, now, more drawn to people who occupy no current aesthetic category at all. Not the deliberately anti-taste person, because that is still taste operating in reverse, still dancing with the same partner, still defined by the very thing it claims to refuse. I mean the person who has not organised themselves around legibility. Who is rereading Clarice Lispector’s “The Passion According to G.H.” for the third time not because Lispector is fashionable again, which she periodically is, but because something in that book will not leave them alone.
Who has a weakness for mid-century Yugoslav cinema that they cannot fully explain and have stopped trying to.
Who owns every recording Dinu Lipatti made before he died at thirty-three and listens to them on a regular afternoon for no occasion.
Who has a particular fondness for the essays of Joseph Roth, written from hotel rooms across a collapsing Europe, and finds them more useful for understanding the present moment than anything published this calendar year.
Who goes to rave parties dressed as though the body is still allowed to be a site of joy rather than a carefully managed communication, their outfit existing entirely in the present tense, for the room, for the night, for nobody’s Instagram, who cannot be photographed without losing something essential, and who dances without once considering how they look doing it, staying until six in the morning out of uncontrived surrender to something collective and loud and entirely resistant to being tasteful, which is, it turns out, increasingly hard to find.
Who keeps returning to Elias Canetti’s “Crowds and Power” because it remains the most useful book ever written about the present moment, despite being published in 1960 and read by almost no one at any party or dinner or cocktail they have ever attended.
Who returns compulsively to Glenn Gould’s interviews, not the performances, but the interviews because Gould talking about why he stopped performing live is one of the most honest things anyone has ever said about the cost of being seen.
Who has become obsessed with the letters of Rosa Luxemburg, written from prison, and finds in them a quality of mind so alive and so undefeated that reading them feels like reproach.
Who reads Édouard Glissant with the same attention most people reserve for canonical western philosophy and has reorganised their entire understanding of identity around the concept of opacity.
Who still returns to Thomas Bernhard, without necessarily enjoying him, but because his brand of magnificent, operatic fury clarifies something about the world that more measured writers are too polite to say.
Who keeps a dog-eared copy of Nikos Kazantzakis on a shelf next to a Romanian cookbook from 1978 and sees no incongruity in that.
Who wears colour the way other people use silence, not as statement but as natural condition, whose wardrobe contains a hand-embroidered jacket from a market in Tbilisi that cost almost nothing and is the most alive garment in any room they enter. Who has never owned a neutral and does not experience this as a lack. Who wears the same ancient wool coat every winter not out of capsule-wardrobe discipline but because they genuinely love it, because it has been with them through enough that it has become something closer to a companion than a garment, and who would find the suggestion of replacing it with something more current not just unnecessary but faintly obscene.
Whose home contains three different rugs that have no business being in the same room together and are magnificent for precisely that reason. Who has books on every surface including the floor, no, no styling device there, only the natural consequence of actually reading them, and who has never once considered whether the spines coordinate. Whose walls are the wrong colour, a particular yellow that visitors find surprising and which was chosen because it makes the afternoon light do something that no amount of pale Scandi wood ever could. Who owns an object, a ceramic, a lamp, a piece of fabric picked up in Essaouira or Plovdiv or a flea market in Concarneau, that has no provenance anyone would recognise and no resale value and which they would rescue first in a fire.
That person has something I find increasingly rare: they are free!!! Not free in any grand, gestural sense.
Free in the small, daily, uncelebrated sense of not having outsourced their interiority to a consensus.
This is what taste, as a disciplinary project, most consistently works to suppress. Not ugliness, precisely, but evidence. Evidence of process. Evidence of want. Evidence that the person before you has an interior life that was not arranged for your comfort or their own social safety.
Taste demands a finished surface. Unperformed self-expression demands the opposite: the working, the doubt, the version where the whole thing almost fell apart and you can still see the marks of where it nearly did.
When I am in a period of real creative life, when writing is actually alive rather than strictly competent, my apartment looks like a library that has been gently burgled, and I am producing something I could not produce from inside a curated existence. The mess is not incidental to the thinking. The mess is where the thinking lives.
What would it mean to refuse? Not the performance of refusal, which is its own trap, its own aesthetic waiting to be packaged and sold back. Something less postureable, simply declining to organise your interior life for exterior legibility. Letting what you love be ungainly. Saying what you actually think before you have sanded it into something the room can receive without flinching. Somewhere in the deeper history of culture there is a memory of a time before the distinction between the body and the mind, the high and the low, the tasteful and the alive, was fully moralised into a social obligation. We are a long way from that.
What we have instead is a very efficient system for producing people who move through the world without causing aesthetic discomfort to anyone with cultural authority, and who have learned, over time, to experience this as achievement.
Taste, in the end, is just manners for the soul. And manners, as anyone who grew up on the wrong side of a class line knows perfectly well, were never about comfort. They were about knowing your place, and staying in it, beautifully, with excellent posture, without making a sound that carries. The violence is slow because it disguises itself as refinement.
The refinement is the cage. And the cage, once you have been inside it long enough, can start to look, from certain angles, in certain lights, almost like home.
From somewhere outside the frame, still declining to arrange myself for your comfort, illegible, ungainly, and considerably louder than the ceiling height permits,
Tamara
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What makes this essay special is that it refuses the usual lazy opposition between “good taste” and “bad taste” and instead reframes taste as infrastructure, a social technology that edits visibility before censorship ever has to arrive. That is a sharp extension of the Museguided tradition, not critiquing aesthetics, but exposing aesthetics as behavioural governance disguised as refinement. The move from Bourdieu’s distinction to the disciplining of the body and appetite is strong because it relocates the discussion from theory into lived texture: interiors, fabrics, volume, posture, lighting, silence. You make taste feel architectural. And it is amazing.
Working in galleries, one sees this mechanism constantly. Collectors who claim to want “challenging” work often mean work that challenges safely, within the tonal palette of an apartment already designed for Architectural Digest. A painting can depict violence, grief, migration, eroticism, political collapse, provided the canvas still harmonises with the walnut dining table and the indirect lighting plan. The market has become extraordinarily efficient at converting rupture into décor. Even dissent now arrives framed, editioned, and colour-corrected.
Your point about “absence of need” is incredible because it identifies the hidden moral fantasy underneath contemporary luxury aesthetics, the ideal subject as someone frictionless, appetite-free, emotionally climate-controlled. In practice, the art world rewards exactly this performance. Artists are expected to produce work about instability while maintaining immaculate personal branding, coherent aesthetics, legible politics, tasteful vulnerability, and a studio that photographs well for interviews. The myth of the “effortless” creative is one of the most exhausting fictions in circulation.
There is also an important economic dimension sitting underneath your argument that deserves expansion. Taste today functions increasingly as a compression algorithm for class recognition in oversaturated cultural markets. In previous centuries, wealth announced itself materially. Now wealth performs literacy. The signal is no longer “I own expensive things” but “I know which expensive things are permitted to look unexpensive”. Hence the triumph of quiet luxury, the ceramic cup that costs $250 because it resembles something peasant-made, the gallery collector who flies business class to Basel to purchase “anti-commercial” work about de-growth. Capitalism has entered its camouflage phase.
And ironically, the more aggressively culture performs minimalism, the more anxious it becomes. Truly alive spaces are rarely visually obedient. Francis Bacon’s studio looked like psychic weather. Louise Bourgeois lived among accumulated memory, fabric, notes, fragments. Even Cy Twombly, canonised now as the patron saint of elegant abstraction, understood that the mark only matters if it still carries residue of impulse and risk. The contemporary obsession with seamlessness removes precisely the evidence that something was actually lived through.
Your closing idea, that freedom may simply mean not organising oneself for legibility, is probably the essay’s most important insight since legibility has become the hidden religion of digital culture. Every platform incentivises recognisable identities, coherent palettes, stable brands of selfhood. Even rebellion now arrives preformatted into consumable aesthetics. The truly difficult act is no longer transgression. It is inconsistency. To remain intellectually or aesthetically unoptimised. To love things that do not triangulate into a personal brand strategy. To keep attachments that cannot be explained in one caption.
That is why your essay feels timely in a way that exceeds design criticism. It is really about the disappearance of private interiority under conditions of continuous cultural display.
And the irony, of course, is that many people now spend enormous sums of money trying to purchase the appearance of having escaped performance altogether. Which may be the most expensive performance of all.
Tamara, you are an astonishing thinker and writer. I get this confirmation weekly in your essays.
Most people don’t have taste! They have algorithms. The same three “life-changing” bestsellers lined up on every coffee table like decorative compliance, the same playlists assembled by Spotify for people terrified of silence, the same tiny restaurants where everyone eats identical burrata under identical Edison bulbs while congratulating themselves on being “curated”. Entire personalities now arrive pre-assembled, flat-packed like ikea furniture. Minimal effort, maximum sameness.
What you capture so brilliantly is that taste is not pleasure anymore, but social camouflage. People no longer ask themselves what moves them, unsettles them, obsesses them, or stays with them for years. They ask what will look intelligent, refined, current, acceptable. They consume culture the way corporations buy office plants. Because it improves the atmosphere. Which is ridiculous!
And the irony is sharp. The most desperate to appear original often end up looking like members of the same aesthetic militia. Same neutral clothes, same “essential” books they never finish, same carefully exhausted way of speaking, as though personality itself has been outsourced to trend forecasting. They do not expressing themselves. They audition for approval from strangers equally lost inside the performance.
The truly stylish person now is almost shocking to encounter. Someone with mismatched bookshelves, strange references, terrible-but-sincere enthusiasms, music nobody else in the room understands, clothes they’ve worn for 15 years because they love them, not because it became fashionable again. Someone whose tastes were formed in solitude rather than assembled in public. That kind of person feels rare now because it requires something modern society discourages, i.e. the courage to develop a self before branding one.
Another masterpiece, Tamara. All people performing on social media should read this.